Its what you do wrong.
Here’s the thing. If I knew what I was looking for, I wouldn’t be looking. Kind of like the saying “your keys were in the last place you looked otherwise you’d still be looking.” If I knew what I wanted in a partner (like really specifically wanted) I probably wouldn’t be looking because I would have found him.
I do know what I don’t want.
A lying, cheating, abusive, alcoholic, druggie, codependent, argumentative, jealous, sneaky, moody, disrespectful, douchey asshole.
So if you’re not those you’re on the right track. Otherwise I’m kind of winging it. I think if I make a list of things I must have I’ll end up overlooking someone who could be really great. Like “must be a good cook” or something like that. It could be something he could learn or want to learn.
Plus if someone says they want a nice, sweet, kind, caring, considerate, down to earth guy who knows how to cook, gives great back rubs, likes animals blah blah.
YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE SISTER.
Seriously. Who ever broke up with someone for being a bad cook but trying anyway? Or what about someone who wasn’t 100% patient all the time? Or putting the toilet paper on the holder the wrong way? No one is perfect. Accept that now.
Just saying. Don’t discount someone because they don’t have a check list for what they want out of a partner. They probably want the same thing everyone else wants.
Be worried if they don’t know what they don’t want.
Mark my words.